tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4055690688282230469.post6494783714035503532..comments2024-03-29T05:54:10.109-07:00Comments on creative savv: When college students come home for breakLilihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13292553654219380455noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4055690688282230469.post-71528346064644492952013-12-12T14:33:27.183-08:002013-12-12T14:33:27.183-08:00Hi Cat,
too funny! Maybe they could dry instead.
B...Hi Cat,<br />too funny! Maybe they could dry instead.<br />But you have trained your cat-babies. They know to wake you at 0-dark:30, because you're such an early morning person, they know you don't want to waste those precious pre-dawn minutes.Lilihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13292553654219380455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4055690688282230469.post-79977651520706030352013-12-12T14:30:17.027-08:002013-12-12T14:30:17.027-08:00Hi Kris,
As for getting your children to act when ...Hi Kris,<br />As for getting your children to act when they see a need, there's one thing that we did with my son, that I think worked in that area. Of course, I wasn't thinking that far forward at the time, but can see it in hind-sight. <br /><br />When he was about 8, I told him that I would sure appreciate it if he would take the kitchen trash out whenever he saw the kitchen trash can was full. That first week, he kept looking under the sink, checking the can. I think the trash was taken out 7 times that week! The next week, I thought to show him a line on the can that he could wait until the trash was full to, before taking the garbage out. But it did get him to take notice of things around the house. The trash was his complete responsibility, and he really savored that role.Lilihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13292553654219380455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4055690688282230469.post-91929202639125575402013-12-12T14:25:21.488-08:002013-12-12T14:25:21.488-08:00Hi Tigersmom,
I'll be spoiled for the next 3 w...Hi Tigersmom,<br />I'll be spoiled for the next 3 weeks, all right!Lilihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13292553654219380455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4055690688282230469.post-1154219259154873582013-12-12T14:24:11.032-08:002013-12-12T14:24:11.032-08:00When I was pregnant I thought about all my little ...When I was pregnant I thought about all my little issues as a child, and thought, "I know just how to handle that one". Only none of my kids ever had the same probs that I had, like thumb-sucking.Lilihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13292553654219380455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4055690688282230469.post-39359924777884375822013-12-12T12:47:24.314-08:002013-12-12T12:47:24.314-08:00I'm still trying to figure out how to get the ...I'm still trying to figure out how to get the cats to help with the dishes... they just keep insisting that they don't like to get their paws wet! :-)EcoCatLadyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15704811319510740473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4055690688282230469.post-86856870487313866222013-12-12T09:36:15.341-08:002013-12-12T09:36:15.341-08:00I love posts like this! I can soak in all the par...I love posts like this! I can soak in all the parenting wisdom offered by you and the commenters! :) <br /><br />My kids are 10 and 8 and I use a chore chart/morning check-off list for everything the kids need to do to be ready to leave the house for school. Like you, Lili, I find that it minimizes/eliminates the "mom nagging" factor and most mornings (we are human, after all!) go relatively smoothly. We also have them help with other chores on a more informal basis (gardening, shovelling snow, etc.). I've debated on doing a more elaborate chore chart but just haven't tackled it yet. I'm not sure how to accomplish this, but I want my kids to internalize that even though some tasks are dull, there is joy in serving others, and to learn to identify needs and help out without being prompted. Krisnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4055690688282230469.post-70266649582152094352013-12-12T08:37:27.870-08:002013-12-12T08:37:27.870-08:00The soup looks tasty! Have your daughters always l...The soup looks tasty! Have your daughters always like to cook? Good deal you've got, them cooking supper every night! They can come live with me anytime. Tigersmomnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4055690688282230469.post-35330702744078704252013-12-12T08:06:00.459-08:002013-12-12T08:06:00.459-08:00I was all ready to apply the things I learned with...I was all ready to apply the things I learned with the first one on #2, but he was an entirely different kid and many things weren't applicable. However, I wasn't quite as worried about things with the second one as I was with the first.Live and Learnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13493777474885053903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4055690688282230469.post-35876962875580321782013-12-12T07:27:07.480-08:002013-12-12T07:27:07.480-08:00Hi live and learn,
Absolutely! The first child is ...Hi live and learn,<br />Absolutely! The first child is the "experiment". And as I get older, I feel that I am paying more attention to what bothers me, and what I'm okay with. <br />Did you find that you parented better, in some areas, with son #2?Lilihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13292553654219380455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4055690688282230469.post-57297131297141414852013-12-12T07:24:05.626-08:002013-12-12T07:24:05.626-08:00Hi,
we did chore charts when they were younger, to...Hi,<br />we did chore charts when they were younger, too. That *was* great -- using the chart to enforce jobs, instead of me nagging. The other thing that I liked about a chore chart is that they didn't need to wait for me to assign a job, but could look at the pictures (for the earliest charts I drew pictures of the jobs), or read the words and see what they needed to do. Lilihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13292553654219380455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4055690688282230469.post-85897511026593376212013-12-12T07:21:36.371-08:002013-12-12T07:21:36.371-08:00Hi Delores,
Thanks for the encouragement. That mus...Hi Delores,<br />Thanks for the encouragement. That must have been difficult when your son returned from the dorms, at first. For myself, I remember being 18, and thinking that I was an adult, so I should be able to set my own rules. It's a fine line to walk. They are adults, and I want to respect that. But also they are living under my roof, and they need to respect that.Lilihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13292553654219380455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4055690688282230469.post-1670641850879933772013-12-12T07:15:36.383-08:002013-12-12T07:15:36.383-08:00I think you are very smart to establish the rules ...I think you are very smart to establish the rules in beginning. That way no hard feeling build up either on your side or theirs. Did you learn this lesson with your son? Live and Learnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13493777474885053903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4055690688282230469.post-60628682974824188642013-12-12T06:45:20.500-08:002013-12-12T06:45:20.500-08:00We have a chore chart on the fridge. Works like a ...We have a chore chart on the fridge. Works like a charm! When they moan about jobs, I just point to the chart and say "sorry, the CHART says you're supposed to do XX job". Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4055690688282230469.post-34768264132652701002013-12-12T06:31:44.896-08:002013-12-12T06:31:44.896-08:00My kids have their own families now, but when they...My kids have their own families now, but when they were younger, my daughters lived at home while earning degrees, but my son lived away. Holiday breaks were a bit tense at first, as my son had become accustomed to setting his own rules while in the dorms. Establishing boundaries and chores early on is smart of you. You will save yourself a lot of frustration.Deloresnoreply@blogger.com