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Our comment section absolutely exploded this weekend. We had a massive chat about the non-frugal items we stubbornly keep in our budgets, even when things are tight.
While the answers spanned everything from high-quality bathroom tissue to organic apples and Tillamook ice cream, the overwhelming majority of you marched straight down the dairy aisle.
There was one clear, undisputed king of the budget splurge: grass-fed butter.
Specifically, the comment section turned into an unexpected ad campaign for Kerrygold, closely followed by fans of the Kirkland grass-fed brand, and even a mention of a new-to-us brand of Irish butter, Truly. And to think I had no idea Kerrygold butter was even a thing. It turns out a lot of us are more than willing to cut back elsewhere just to secure that rich, yellow goodness for our morning toast.
But here is my favorite part of our community: we don’t all cook or eat the exact same way.
While the butter fans were making their case, several readers jumped in to share that they (or members of their household) don't use butter at all, or prefer a half-and-half butter blend, or use butter in some cooking but not in all. It reminded me that true frugality isn't a one-size-fits-all rule list. It is about intentionality -- deliberately spending on what brings you value, whether that means premium Irish butter, a dairy alternative, or no butter at all!
Since so many of us choose to spend our hard-earned dollars on at least a couple of premium items, let's see if we can't brainstorm some strategies to maximize our favorite splurges and make them last longer.
1. Create Intentional Space (Around the Consumption or Use of That Item)
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This is what I mean: I try to really savor my butter. If I'm having a piece of toast with butter with my breakfast, I don't try to wash my bites down with coffee in a hurry. I savor those first couple of bites, paying attention to what I'm putting into my mouth.
If my thing was Dawn dish soap, I would try to remember to take a moment to appreciate how clean and quickly the detergent got my dishes.
If the product I'm splurging on is a more healthful version, but tastes the same as a conventional version, I still make myself slow down and enjoy the consumption. If it's a food item, put it on a nice plate or in a nice cup or glass. Like Tina's favorite organic apples -- rinse off the dust, slice into thin wedges, plate on a lovely piece of porcelain, and enjoy every taste.
Slow down. Let the savoring paint a glow over that moment in your day. Savor, savor, savor.
2. The "Less Is More" Paradox
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If you really savor your experience with your splurge, you might find you consume less. Put a single moderate-size scoop of your favorite ice cream into a beautiful dish instead of a large scoop. Now take a few minutes to really enjoy that cold treat. If a particular coffee flips your switch, make slightly less and pour your serving into a smaller cup. Smaller servings make the stash of treats last longer.
Or maybe you use less by having it less often. On ice cream, Ruthie mentioned that her guilty pleasure is Tillamook brand ice cream, but that she typically only buys it for their family gatherings. Another example, I love good chocolate. I'd rather have a small piece of good chocolate once a month than a large hunk of poor quality chocolate every week.
With some products, the superior nature of the item inherently results in lower usage. A better dish soap cleans with less product. Perhaps that's why Ruthie's husband's childhood family always bought the big blue bottle. Kris and Cat mentioned they like a plushier bathroom tissue. As you might guess, better quality TP doesn't need to be folded and folded and folded in order to have what you need. Fewer squares, just as clean. The end result is using less makes the "splurge budget" go further.
3. Smart Strategic Substitution
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There's a concept that can be applied to many areas of our lives called Strategic Layering. Strategic layering is an approach that works towards an ultimate and complex goal while implementing different and tailored strategies for the many parts of the operation. Our ultimate and complex goal might be to live within a budget while eating healthfully and with enjoyment. But with each step toward the goal, we may choose different methods to carry them out. We are layering on steps as we work toward a goal.
To put this into action, use your splurge in ways that are meaningful to you or that its star qualities shine best. This is also where my "I like butter I can see" philosophy comes into play. Unmelted butter on toast is creamy. Part of what I enjoy about butter is its mouth feel. Melted butter on toast may have the flavor, but is now oily. You may have this same feeling about margarine spreads. Once it melts, it changes.
Shelby mentioned she likes to use margarine in some quick breads, as they turn out less dry with the margarine compared to using butter. Since no one enjoys dry-textured quick breads, some of butter's star qualities are lost in some types of those baked goods.
If premium grass-fed butter is your thing, baking in general may not be the best use for the elevated butter, as the flavors and creaminess of these butters may be lost in the baking. Regular butter may work just fine. Of course, there are some baked good recipes that rely heavily of butter as a main component, as Lynn reminded us concerning baking shortbread. The good quality butter really did improve those cookies.
If a cup of premium French press coffee on a Saturday morning speaks luxury to you, you may want to simply enjoy it in a cup but make your next tiramisu with a non-premium coffee.
Another example, your indulgence may be super high quality bathroom tissue. That's great, but your young grandkids are coming over for the afternoon for a little nana and me time. Knowing how kids can go through the TP (and not at all appreciate it), you may want to switch out that super high-end roll with a stepped down roll.
It doesn't mean you need to swap the worst in place of the best in these examples. It's a matter of finding a next best choice for when the star qualities of an item are lost, either because of preparation or because of audience. For most of our premium item splurges, there are acceptable less expensive substitutions for when it doesn't have to be the best of the best.
In a pecan nutshell, don't waste the Kerrygold in a baked cake where the specific qualities of this Irish butter are masked by sugar, flour, vanilla and cocoa powder. Use the cheap store brand butter in this case. Save the high-end butter for the finishing steps in cooking, like topping a serving of steaming vegetables, or smearing onto a slice of toast, or dolloping into the well of a helping of mashed potatoes.
4. The Wizarding World of Freezing Butter (and Other Beloved Bits)
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Don't you just hate it when you find a great price on your splurge while actually shopping in the store, and you buy ONE, then later in the day or week, you kick yourself for not stocking up?
Mark this in the notepad of your mind -- butter freezes beautifully with this one simple trick. Wrap your butter in aluminum foil, freezer wrap, or a freezer storage bag, then top with another freezer bag before placing in a 0 degree freezer. The double-bagging locks freezer odors out.
Experts will tell you butter stays good for up to a year this way, but I can tell you I've successfully frozen butter, double-bagged for more than 2 years and it tasted as good as newly purchased butter.
For whatever your splurge is, look up the best extended-term storage practices for that item, whether its freezing, storing in a mylar bag/airtight container with oxygen absorbers, or if it's a paper product, store stock-up amounts long-term inside large plastic storage tubs in dry locations, not bathrooms, not damp basements, not garages, and certainly not outdoor sheds.
Know this one thought throughout your shopping being: When you find a deal on your most favorite splurge item, remember you will kick yourself if you don't stock up. This can be a single-item-only thought process, "when I find Kerrygold on sale, I will buy X quantity and store securely." You may want to even create a splurge item fund that covers the stock-up amount when you happen upon it on sale. If that is a set dollar amount, like $30 in this fund, then you could tell yourself you will buy stock-up amounts up to the $30.
5. The Art of the Stretch
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There are times when you want to enjoy your splurge entirely on its own. You want the flavor of your preferred toast spread, as is. Then there are times that stretching it also works well, increasing the volume and potentially elevating the flavor profile further.
Let's say you've baked a beautiful loaf of artisan bread. You could take some of the grass-fed butter and whip it with a bit of olive oil plus chopped, fresh herbs and savories. The result is known as a compound butter. For a zesty and fresh take, whip together a half-cup of unsalted butter with a splash of olive oil (tablespoon or two), plus some loosely-packed lemon zest, parsley, chives, and dill weed and a tiny bit of sea salt to equal 1/4 cup of total additions.
For the classic compound butter, take that same half-cup of unsalted butter, splash of olive oil plus loose-packed fresh parsley, rosemary, thyme, minced garlic and a tiny bit of sea salt (totaling 1/4 cup of additions).
Both resulting spreads can be kept in a crock, covered tightly in the fridge for up to 2 weeks or in a freezer container, sealed well, for up to 6 months. In any case, you've expanded the original butter from 1/2 cup to 5/8 cup of final product. Granted the olive oil and herbs add cost. In many cases, your final cost will still be less per ounce than the original premium butter. And since you are adding flavors to the butter, making compound butter would be a good excuse to use half grass-fed butter and half store-brand butter, reducing the final cost even more.
If your splurge is organic produce, you can "stretch" the most expensive organic ones with the less expensive ones. For example, a fruit compote. Organic bananas are priced just a few cents more per pound at Walmart than traditionally-grown bananas. A fruit salad using some banana, some apple, and a few berries (all organic) makes the most of the most expensive of the organic fruit (the berries).
If you are trying to make a special coffee stretch for more servings, you can brew the first cup as usual, save the grounds, and then add 1/2 scoop of new coffee for the second cup. The second cup may not taste quite like the first, but it will still be a high-quality cup of Joe.
A similar tactic works for tea. After that cuppa, save the tea bag in a plastic bag in the fridge for up to 24 hours or in the freezer for a couple of weeks. (Squeeze out excess water from bags to be frozen.) Continue adding once-steeped bags to the baggie until you have 2 to 3. When ready to brew that "new" cup, put all of the steeped bags into a cup, cover with boiling water, and allow to steep just a little longer than normal to extract all of the flavor.
Obviously, the more of these strategies one uses the more will be saved. However, i'll point out that this can be a cafeteria plan, where you pick and choose which strategies work best for your situation. Hate the idea of having premium coffee fewer days of the week? Fine, stock up on your fav when you find a great price, then store your stash under the best conditions available to you. You can't stand the thought of your pricey butter being stretched with anything at all? Then really savor the moments when you use it in a finishing situation but sub in store brand butter for applications where the premium flavors and textures will be masked.
Some of these tips go beyond simple frugal living, and instead delve into a mindful philosophy for the enjoyment of little luxuries. Stretching your favorite splurges isn't just about pinching pennies. It's about changing how we interact with the items we choose to bring into our homes. Whether you are employing a use less of your high-end treats strategy, using a few kitchen hacks to blend and stretch your volume, exercising some portion control while really enjoying the experience, or reserving your stash to use strategically where its quality will matter, you have put yourself into the driver's seat of your budget. You're in control. Most importantly, when we create space around a moment and really savor our splurge, we turn a basic grocery purchase into a genuine daily luxury. As we say so often here, frugal living doesn't mean living a life of deprivation. It means having our little indulgences but making them last.
Whether you are team Kerrygold, team margarine, or swear by a completely different household luxury altogether, we all want our splurges to last! What can you add to these strategies? Do you have a secret stretching hack of your own? Do you have a different take on any of my suggestions? Let's talk about it in the comments below!
I remember discussing the teabag technique. True confession, I don't bother refrigerating them (but then again, I drink a lot of tea and go through it quickly). It does help stretch my stash of tea, to save the used ones and double- or triple-up on them to get a full-bodied cup of tea. I prefer my tea in porcelain or china cups/mugs, which isn't really a "stretching" technique as much as it is a fully-enjoying-the-experience strategy.
ReplyDeleteI wear Hoka shoes due to foot problems, and my strategy for that is to wear my newest pair mostly inside or on outdoor surfaces where I don't think I'll pick up a lot of dirt and debris. I transition my older Hokas to walking outdoors, where I know they are more likely to get dirty. Lili, I recall that you bought comfy shoe liners to use in your older, supportive shoes as "slippers". Smart plan!
Hi Kris,
DeleteMy daughter is the big tea drinker in our house. She saves the tea bags of her more premium teas to use a second time. I also wonder if a side benefit to doing this would be to reduce the caffeine slightly. My daughter often uses the pre-steeped bags for an afternoon or evening cup. I'm glad that this works so well for you. And I completely agree that drinking your tea in a nice cup or mug elevates the entire experience and helps get the most from our splurges.
Oh, that's a good strategy -- saving your new Hokas for cleaner surfaces or indoors! These good shoes are an expense, aren't they? I've found if I buy a cheaper shoe that my feet really complain. So I, too, try to make them last. And yes, you have a great memory -- I do use the older shoes as "slippers" with the addition of fleece liners. I have the laces taken out so I can slip into them. My next addition will be to add elastic laces that you don't tie, so they look a little tidier, have a slightly tighter fit, but are still slip on.
Do you wear shoes indoors at home, or are you a socks-while-at-home household? I ask because so many of my friends and family that have lived in snowy winter climates take their shoes off when home. Growing up in California, we were a shoes-on indoors family, and so many of my friends' homes were the same. I think that was in part because we were in and out constantly, and the weather as it was kept mud to a minimum. Tracking in dirt was not a huge problem,
Elastic shoelaces are an old OT trick to help people who can't manage tying shoelaces. :)
DeleteI generally take off my shoes when I come in, although if my feet are really hurting me, then I wear my shoes indoors (at my podiatrist's recommendation). One of my weird quirks is that my feet get hot in the summer, and I prefer to be barefoot. A friend of mine gave me a pair of Chaco sandals (she works for a company that sells them, and has access to clothing items that have been discontinued) years ago, and sometimes I use them indoors in the summer if I feel like I need more foot support.
I read your response to L&L. I think some of our shoe choices when we were younger play into our changing feet (I was guilty of wearing unsupportive flip-flops a lot in my teens and young adult years), but if you think about it, our feet get constant wear-and-tear over the years. Women gain weight with pregnancy (my shoe size changed after I was pregnant), and our feet feel the stress. Here's an article which discusses what aging does to our feet: https://www.prevention.com/health/a20497906/what-aging-does-to-your-feet/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=mgu_ga_pre_md_pmx_prog_org_us_20739785489&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=20733447543&gbraid=0AAAAADA2LlLSX71-Sdrbxmmg9N5zOaISp&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI6o7sjp37lAMV4kp_AB2dIT0yEAAYASAAEgJXbvD_BwE
Hi Kris,
DeleteI wear shoes indoors, too, for support. I never go barefoot. When my feet feel hot, I switch out socks and shoes. That seems to help. I don't have a pair of good sandals, just a pair of pretty ones that do nothing to support my feet. In my defense, I bought these 20 years ago before my feet began having more problems. Anyway, I will check out Chaco sandals. I'm glad your friend was able to supply you with a pair.
What you said about foot problems makes sense. There is a lot of wear and tear that transpires over the years. I can't believe that I used to be able to wear a pair of high-heeled pumps for an entire day on my feet. So some of my shoe choices might not have been great when I was younger.
Amazon sells those elastic shoelaces. I'm thinking of adding a pair when I have another order to place. Interesting to hear they are what's recommended for those who can no longer tie their shoes easily.
Reading this post reminded me of one “splurge” that I hadn’t thought of with your previous post. Albacore tuna. I don’t care for the chunk light tuna. So I use several strategies. The first is I buy it on sale. Currently it is on sale for 1.50 for the 5 oz can, which is about as low as it gets here. (If I get my hands on fresh tuna-yum!) I then make this into tuna salad. One way to stretch it is to add veggies is including minced peppers, onions, celery and grated carrots. This increases the volume as you noted. And then, I usually mash a tablespoon or more of white beans into a paste and add that as well. Sometimes I add a boiled egg too. This way the small can makes several sandwiches. The tuna taste is still there but maybe a bit milder. But it’s great as a tuna melt!
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DeleteOh, I agree, albacore tuna is so much better than chunk light. I haven't bought it in many years. I just now checked the price at Walmart. They currently have 5 oz cans of StarKist Solid White Albacore for $1.27. Do you shop at Costco? I was wondering if Costco might have a better deal on Kirkland albacore?
I love your tips to maximize the premium tuna! I love lots of veggies in tuna salad, but I've never tried adding grated carrots. The mashed white beans is brilliant! I do add boiled eggs to boost the protein and stretch the can. Turned into a tuna melt sounds delicious.
A year or two ago one daughter came across a 1950s or 1960s recipe from Disneyland's Pirate Ship restaurant (no longer there) for a hot tuna sandwich. It included diced green bell pepper and diced or shredded cheese in the tuna and mayo mixture. The sandwich was made on a bun, wrapped in foil, then heated until hot throughout. The bun itself was a little crispy on the outside and the inside tuna melt was creamy. Since then, we've added green pepper to tuna salad. It's a great flavor addition.
Are you a tuna salad mixed with macaroni and served as a chilled salad person, or do you prefer tuna salad in sandwiches?
We prefer to eat on hot sandwiches with cheese (similar to your daughter’s recipe) or on top of lettuce. No macaroni salad or tuna casseroles for us. But a favorite in the summer is to cut a fresh vine ripened tomato into wedges (bottom still connected) and nestle the tuna salad into that. Delish! Also, when you add the mashed white beans, they blend right in!
DeleteThe closest Walmart to me is 22 miles one way (about 45+ minutes) so I rarely make it that far north, especially with gas nowadays and our tourist season in high gear. TOO many crowds and cars!! When we travel out of state (VA) to the doctor, and pass by, if the crowds aren’t too bad, we do sometimes stop to pick up a few things. I’ll have to price compare.
The closest Costco is several hours away. We did however just this weekend join Costco for the first time. We visit our son and granddaughter monthly and my mother monthly, both of whom have Costco nearby. So maybe I can look for albacore tuna there, as you suggested (as well as the Kerrygold or their similar brand ;) With a family of 2, we will have to evaluate if it is effective for us.
Hi Lynn,
DeleteThanks for telling me that mashed white beans just blend right in. Do they add some moisture? I'm thinking maybe I could use a little less mayonnaise in tuna salad if the white beans helped with making the tuna spreadable.
I'll be interested to hear if Costco has albacore tuna for a price better than what you find on sale locally. If you do check Costco for the Kerrygold and Kirkland brand grass-fed butter, also check to see if they have the Truly brand that Cat mentioned, also an Irish grass-fed butter.
Lili, the moisture just depends on how much of the liquid from the beans you use as you mash them.
DeleteI’ll check on the butters. I actually have a couple of packages of Truly butter too. I need to do a taste test for sure! (And to start using it more!)
Thanks for the response, Lynn. I'm going to give adding some cooked white beans a try.
DeleteI too have the necessity for expensive shoes and do the same thing in cycling the older shoes into yard shoes, etc. I also reuse tea bags and that works fine for me, but I'm not a big tea drinker. For the me, the real key in extending or appreciating more luxurious items is to make them special treats and not every day things.
ReplyDeleteHi Live and Learn,
DeleteThere's so much truth to what you said as making splurges special by not having them often. I really appreciate something if I only have it every once in a while. If everyday were a carnival, we'd soon become bored with that excitement.
When our kids were young, we made the choice to only do purchased treats (like a McDonald's Happy Meal or a Dairy Queen ice cream cone) every once in a rare, rare while. It made those outings very special and memorable for my kids.
What is it with needing better (AKA more expensive) shoes? Every woman I know has to buy better quality shoes due to foot issues with cheaper ones. I wonder if shoes in general are being made more poorly than 50 years ago? Or is it our feet? Do you have a preferred brand for everyday, casual shoes? Do you know a good brand for days of walking while on vacation?
I think saving newer shoes for when they need to either fit best or be the most presentable, then use the older shoes for messy work is a great way to extend the value of your shoe purchase.
My husband is the tea drinker and we use a teapot and brew a full pot with one teabag. If he doesn't drink that pot, it stays on the counter and then he either warms us the rest or next morning adds a new teabag and hot water. He often has 3 teabags floating in the teapot and eventually uses the last bit watered down with tap water.
ReplyDeleteShoes...as we get older our feet change and many develop bunions or plantar fascitis and the solution is better fitting shoes with a wider toe box and better supports in the shoes. I like my Brooks Ghost but lately have seen the quality isn't as good and several years ago. I wear orthotics to help with my arch support but can get away with the store supports. Flip flops are the worst sandal around. I like cork-like sandals as that helps a lot and I skip heels since that can be bad for my feet. For a long time I couldn't wear pretty shoes and still don't but I did find two pairs of rather expensive sandal a few years ago that I wear for special occasions. I would love to hear ideas on good footwear for regular shoes because I could use some.
Alice
Alice, I’m a coffee and tea drinker. Like your husband, I will save several “spent “ tea bags to brew for a fresh cup of tea. Is it as good to me as a new one? Not quite, but still tasty to me.
DeleteWith the price of coffee now, I don’t waste it either. Any leftovers from the morning become an iced coffee in the afternoon or refrigerated to be warmed back up at another time. When my husband worked out of town and I was making the coffee, I did like Lili mentioned. I would save the grounds for the next morning and add a lesser amount of fresh grounds. But once DH retired and took over the coffee duties, he put the kibosh on reusing grounds. He will save the morning leftovers however.
Hi Alice,
DeleteI'd not heard of Brooks shoes. I learn so much here. That's so disappointing when quality of a product goes down. I hope you find something you like as much. Have you checked the OrthoFeet website? You can search by foot condition, as well as type of shoe. Depending on someone's idea of expensive, they might seem pricey. But for the type of shoe, like orthotic walking shoe, the price is fair, and they're attractive instead of what I used to think orthopedic shoes looked like. Quality shoes are just expensive. Anyway, if you haven't checked that site, take a look.
It sounds like your husband extracts every last bit of flavor from his teabags. We save tea, too, here. I made a pot of tea a couple of weeks ago, and with the leftovers (about 1 mug) I poured it into a microwaveable mug, put a small lid on the mug and kept it in the fridge for a few days until I remembered to drink it.
Lynn, we save our leftover coffee, too. Even with instant coffee, if I make more than I want to drink that day, I save it and reheat the next morning. I can't imagine throwing it out, like you said with the high price of coffee these days.
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