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Frugality doesn't just feel harder because we're battling inflation, but it's also more troublesome at this time because we are fighting Silicon Valley's smartest software engineers.
Not too long ago, having a no-spend week simply meant not going to a store. When catalogs with 1-800 phone numbers hit the scene, temptation to spend became a little more difficult to deal with. But still, we could put that catalog down, throw it away, or ask to be taken off the mailing list.
In retail design, anything that slows a customer down when making a purchase is called friction. Friction impedes consumer purchasing and reduces business profits. In the age of automated consumption, digital engineers have created "frictionless spending."
It's really somewhat insidious when you think about it. Predictive algorithms, AI, and one-click checkout are entirely designed to get the customer to click buy now before we can stop ourselves and think through a purchase.
If you have ever struggled with purchasing more than you deep-down wanted, you realize that we are at war here. It is us, the consumers, against the digital engineering of retail merchants.
So what are some examples of engineered frictionless spending?
The One-Click Trap
As I mentioned above, one-click checkout, where your information and credit card are "kept on file" for your convenience. You enter your email address and all of the fields are filled for you, including the last 4 digits of your credit card. All you have to do to make that purchase is click. In the purchaser's mind, One-Click purchasing speeds past the moment when you pull your credit card out of your wallet and have to read and enter the number. Brief as this moment might be, it still slows you down and gives you a minute to evaluate if you really want to make this purchase.
The Solution to One-Click
- You can reintroduce friction on any of the websites you use, from retail to food delivery platforms. Simply delete your saved credit card information from those sites and apps.
- If you do most of your purchasing on your phone, you can delete the apps and force yourself to shop via your desktop. Apps are designed to be quick and easy -- open the app, make your selection, one-click and you're done. Using the website on your desktop or laptop requires you to be at your computer, navigate to the site, and then initiate a purchase.
- On many sites you can also enable Two-Step Verification or Two-Factor Authentication (2FA) through your account settings with each site. By necessitating a second form of verification that you are who you say you are, you introduce friction and slow each purchase down long enough to think through.
Predictive Algorithms and Retail Surveillance
- Turn off "Personalized Ads" in Google, Apple, and social media settings.
- Clear browser cookies frequently or use one of the privacy-focused browsers like DuckDuckGo or Brave.
- Resist the temptation to "heart" or save items to a digital wishlist. Indicating that you like these items opens the floodgates to targeted ads that say "price dropped" or "only 1 left!"
The Subscription-ization of Everything
- Instead of canceling one or two subscriptions at a time (if you have many), cancel only the non-essential ones. And remember, you get to decide what is essential and what is not.
- Then as you go, resubscribe individually when you find that the lack of that particular subscription is causing friction in your life.

Wow, Lili. This could easily be an article shared in, say, a magazine that is distributed nationally. Very well written and thought-out. I don't think I have seen these ideas presented on any of the frugal forums that I have followed.
ReplyDeleteIn this age of subscriptions, I am the oddball who shies away from them. I don't like my information, including my credit card number, "out there", and try to minimize it as much as possible. I only order from Amazon 3 or 4 times a year, when I have enough of an order that I can get free shipping. I'd like to get it down to 0 times a year, but sometimes it's the only place where I can locate what I need. I dislike many of Amazon's business practices, and don't want to support them with my money, but I haven't been able to completely eliminate using them as a shopping resource.
Along those lines, local shopping, which supports local businesses and keeps money in my own community, is important to me. I like to see and touch what I'm purchasing. It gives me a better idea of the quality of the product. It's also so much easier to return things!
Hi Kris,
DeleteIt is frustrating isn't it, that sometimes the only place you can find what you need is on Amazon. One of the things I do, however, is use Amazon to find the product I need, then search out the manufacturer's website and either order directly from that manufacturer or dig further on the manu. website for where their product is sold in stores near me.
I prefer to keep money in my own community, too. Keeping our neighbors employed and able to enjoy their lives.
You are so right! That "one click" trap is very enticing to people. One of my kids is addicted to that one click stuff and I'm like Kris and only order maybe 3 to 4 times per year.because I know it can be very dangerous. As a newlywed ATM were the dangers of the 80s. You could drive up to one and get whatever kind of money you wanted by inserting your card. I was cured of that when the machine ate my card. I saw the danger and we no longer used that cash cow. Accountability to yourself is the key here. It's much too easy to blow extra cash (and not so extra cash). I don't even do online grocery order because it's too easy to click away!
ReplyDeleteHi Alice,
DeleteI love that you brought up the ATM as a cash machine. I've never used an ATM. But I see it as a potential problem for many people. I prefer to shop with cash, but I make myself go inside the bank to make the withdrawal. It's just another layer that keeps me accountable. I do use credit cards, and I see them as having a potentially similar problem. I find I don't look at prices as closely in the grocery store if I'm putting groceries on my credit card, than when I have to pay with cash. One of our stores doesn't accept credit cards, so I am very mindful of how much everything in my cart will cost, and I make choices accordingly.
They have definitely made it too easy to buy things online these days. But luckily, it works for us as more of a convenience than a temptation. Being able to order from home without going on a long shopping trip trying to find an item is a luxury we appreciate. The only subscriptions we have are my husband's. He has one for crossword puzzle books which he does all the time. It is difficult to find the book he likes in stores and it's cheaper when you subscribe. Also, he belongs to a puzzle club. He got a subscription to one at Christmas and he has kept it up. He is very good at and really enjoys working puzzles. We trade traditional puzzles with others, but these puzzles are wooden and cut into unique shapes that add a whole new experience that he enjoys.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Kris, Lili. This and the other posts you have been doing are well written and thorough. I hope you are exploring other sources to publish them. Maybe you'll become a famous columnist one day, and we can say we knew you when. :)
Hi Live and Learn,
DeleteI see your point about not going out on long shopping trips to find that one thing. I've gotten to the point that if it's just one or two things I'm needing, I will double check online that it is in stock at a local store. I had to go to the drug store today for something specific and I didn't want to be driving all over town trying to find this one product. I spent about 30 minutes online at home locating where I could buy this. Better to spend that time at home than in the car driving all over town. One of the times of year that I really appreciate online shopping is the holidays. I can get so much shopping done in an afternoon, shopping that would have taken days to complete if driving around town. There are definitely positives to online shopping. Thanks for sharing your viewpoint.
Sort of a side note, but regarding targeted ads…my husband and I watched multiple reruns of Friends and The Office recently on TV. Then I noticed that we kept seeing the same two ads on the TV, one with Jennifer Anniston for popcorn and another with Steve Carell and John Krasinski for a coffee maker. No matter what other shows or news we watched. Coincidence? Nope, I Googled and found that even your TV captures what you are watching and targets ads to you accordingly. Annie
ReplyDeleteHi Annie,
DeleteThat's just the sort of thing that I find on the creepy side, the ads reflecting the shows you'd watched. I'm hoping there will be push-back on this sort of targeted advertising. It's the sort of thing I can see being legislated against at some point. I'm sorry you had to experience that feeling of being surveilled.
This was excellent! I read it aloud to my teen children. One thing I do is never save my credit card in anything which requires me to physically get up and acquire said card to make a purchase. Just that little inconvenience has paused me in the act of ad vulnerable buying endeavors.
ReplyDeleteHi Amanda,
DeleteYour teen kids likely don't remember a time when there wasn't all of this internet "convenience." When I tell my kids about how grocery stores used to not accept credit cards, they look at me like I'm pulling their leg. Everything is easy to buy now.
You're smart to not store your credit card info on websites. That inconvenience of having to get up and retrieve your card is the friction that slows your purchasing. You're doing a great job showing your kids how to be financially responsible.